Earlier this year, I uncovered a truth about myself that had previously eluded me. A piece of the puzzle of my identity clicked into place when I realized that I’m non binary.

At times, the truth can be a double-edged sword, and to me, this truth certainly was. On one hand, I was happy that I finally figured out my gender identity and which pronouns I prefer to use. But on the other hand, I had to worry about having to hide another aspect of my identity because not everyone in my life would accept it.

Is it better to…

Image by Etapatra Aranyani on Unsplash

Think about the term non-binary, with respect to gender. Does it seem rather like it hinges on the idea of an existing gender binary by being defined as genders outside of it? If so, that’s because it is. Because the gender binary has repeatedly been enforced, society has often come to view binary genders as the only valid ones. The term ‘non-binary’ subverts the gender binary but at the same time, reinforces the fact that it exists.

For this reason, some gender-diverse people prefer not to identify with the term. Similarly, some reject the label ‘third gender’ as it has…

Photo by Raphael Nogueira on Unsplash

Chances are, if you’ve read science fiction with non-binary characters, you’ve come across the idea of non-binary aliens. While on the surface it may seem harmless to write non-binary aliens in fiction, it tends to signal an issue when no human non-binary characters exist in the work(although this is only applicable when binary-gender humans are in the work).

There are various examples of this trope, ranging from somewhat problematic to trans-affirming. One of the examples that comes to mind is Ursula K. Le Guin’s book The Left Hand of Darkness, in which there is a species of humanoid aliens known…

Photo by Sharon McCutcheon on Unsplash

Many systems in our world are entrenched in cissexism, which ends up harming trans people. The healthcare system is no exception, and this is a call to action for people who have influence in the healthcare sector(when it is safe to take action on this issue).

Making healthcare more trans-friendly helps create a world in which trans people are accepted for who they are and provided adequate support. I will detail some ways in which people who work in the healthcare field can better provide support to trans people.

1. Allow people to disclose their pronouns and gender identities if they want to, but do not coerce anyone into revealing this information:

This ensures that if, for example, a patient is okay with…

Photo by Jasmin Sessler on Unsplash

What comes to mind when you think of fanfiction? For me, it’s queer representation. Fanfiction provides a way for lgbt+ people to explore and discuss their identities. Many of us find solace in lgbt+ headcanons or canon queer characters in a world that can often be against us. Whether it’s a pridefic or a coming-out story, queer fanfiction tends to give us hope. Hope for inclusivity and taking pride in who we are.

Many people who read and/or write queer fanfiction aim to find or create a vision of LGBT+ safe spaces or explore our queer identities and our experiences…

Non-binary flag with trans symbol

To me, it was freeing to cast off the gender identity I was assigned at birth in favor of the non-binary gender identity that fits me better. It was a strange experience to me at first, coming to terms with the fact that I don’t truly identify as my AGAB. The concept of gender identity didn’t make much sense to me either because I didn’t feel like I truly identified as any gender. But at the same time, I didn’t want to rush to conclusions about my gender identity.

At one point I figured that since at the moment I…

Etapatra Aranyani

(They/them or Lea/leaf)

Get the Medium app

A button that says 'Download on the App Store', and if clicked it will lead you to the iOS App store
A button that says 'Get it on, Google Play', and if clicked it will lead you to the Google Play store